I listened to a little inspiration today. I like how it explains that we are wonderful but we do not need to say yes to everything. We do not need to please. We are not responsible for other people’s feelings. You are not chocolate.
I will give you an example of what No meant to me as I received a phone call from my local church a couple of weeks ago. Before the pandemic I was supporting the committee called Outreach. I also attended a Christian class faithfully for 2 months. Neither of those 2 volunteer activities felt correct for me.
Yes I learned about myself and I learned how to work with people I didn’t know well. Yes, but it did not feel correct for me.
I did not feel connected or comfortable with my committee members.
Now that the pandemic is less critical and we have the tools and resources to help prevent or fight the COVID my church is opening up. The President of our Church Board called me and asked if I would be willing to run the Outreach Committee. I said No I would not be. I was asked if I wanted to participate in any of the other committees. I said No.
Since I said that No to my church I have felt less stress and it has opened me up to freely feel grounded and confident that other things will present itself to me.
I believe I am a wonderful person but I can’t please people like a piece of chocolate can.
Just hand over the chocolate and no one will get hurt!